Blog & Teachings

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Reflections shared over time. Filter by theme, or read from the top.

March 30, 2021 · Dez Nichols

Is the ‘Dark’ the Latest Spiritual Fad?

Light as a desirable destination or the “place to live” was in the spotlight of the spiritual world for some centuries. On this Light/Dark spectrum of desire and fear, Darkness is the other pole, with all its dense, sweaty, earthy grit - it got relegated to the caves and crevices.

February 25, 2021 · Dez Nichols

Love Is Out of Control

Life has presented me with so many opportunities to learn and grow from success and failure. I’m grateful for every moment of it.

December 31, 2020 · Dez Nichols

The Call of the Soul: Embodied Love, Shadow Stalking & Total Integration

Being born into a world of fear, competition and greed, the pain of the soul not being seen and met was too much. Separation from the intense pain and disconnecting from our emotional bodies was an automatic survival choice. We learned how to function, compete, survive and sometimes succeed in what has become the default human game.

December 31, 2020 · Dez Nichols

Reflections and Tips on Group-Relating & Open-Relating

For most of my adult life I have been dreaming about, exploring and living in alternative forms of relationship. As a sex and relationship guide who supports people to address their sexual and relational trauma and dysfunction, I have seen a lot.

December 31, 2020 · Dez Nichols

Dear Fellow Humans, It’s Time to Wake Up.

You have been running around your planet for thousands of years trying to figure out what life is all about and why you are here.

December 29, 2020 · Dez Nichols

Emotional Release Tools: Are You Using or Abusing Them?

If you want to have a healthy, peaceful, and thriving inner-world, relationships, spiritual life, and creative/professional life, a regular conscious emotional release practice is essential.

November 30, 2020 · Dez Nichols

Total Integrity and Living Beyond ‘Sacrifice’

Is it possible to have what your heart truly desires without having to sacrifice any part of you, me, the earth, or life? YES.

August 25, 2020 · Dez Nichols and Sonalle LaMariposa

Unfelt Shame Becomes Toxic Projection

Healthy shame is what we feel when we make a mistake or discover we are out of personal integrity. It’s an energy in motion (e-motion) which allows us to know our limits and boundaries and mobilizes us to get our needs met.

November 8, 2013 · Dez Nichols

I Know What I Want. How Can I Make It Happen?

As we heal ourselves, the consciousness we feel can begin to direct itself outward to all of creation including our families, communities, nations and world.

March 30, 2012 · Anyaa McAndrew and Dez Nichols

Taking the Masculine off the Cross

It is generally true that women are about 15 years ahead of men in terms of their psycho-emotional-spiritual development. Most men are just not well-equipped to deal with the depth and complexity of women. Experts like David Deida, teacher of the yoga of intimacy, say that "most men are just plain clueless about women and relationships".